Why You Should Always Forgive Your Douchebag Friends

One of life’s unfortunate dilemmas arises when someone you love, your best friend even, is dating a complete and utter douche. How do you handle this? How do you protect your friend by helping her see the truth about her soul-sucking mate, without making her defensive and more entangled with the douche? What is a douche, exactly? Well every douche, of course, is a douche in his or her special way, but there are many recognizable traits of this species.

A douche loves his power over you, more than loving you.

I tried to be a good friend by listening to him and giving him my best feedback. I remember when one of my friends started dating a new girl. But when someone’s best friend is a big douche bag and they even hang out.

Alisa Kalina. She deserves so much better , but how do I get her to see that and leave this jerk? The most loving thing we can do for anyone is to just be present with them during their struggles, not trying to change anything or get them to see our perspective, but to be right next to them with an open and empathetic heart.

Holding space for them is the most powerful thing we can do to support their growth and finding their own desire for change, eliminating any judgement that arises in you regarding it. Encouraging their spirit with compliments instead of criticism , filling their minds with images of how they deserve to be loved because they are so amazing, opening their heart to feel safe and confident to make change by just being present with them through their process, loving them unconditionally even when you disagree with their decisions.

The beautiful and divinely inspired truth about life is that we are all on our own journeys to evolve soulfully for our individual greater good, and therefore the highest good of all beings. Even when we think we see what would be best for someone, we must allow them to find what is best for them and support them regardless, unconditional love means loving without judgement. Of course, if your friend was in any serious danger you should take an active approach for her safety.